HOW TO BUILD SELF-CONFIDENCE WITH AFFIRMATIONS

When navigating our everyday lives, self-confidence acts as that voice inside our head that propels us to stand up after a fall, take challenges, and take the leap. For many, this inner confidence doesn’t come naturally.

Self-confidence is believing in yourself and your abilities. It’s like knowing you can do something well, like bike riding, solving a puzzle, or making friends laugh.

When you’re self-confident, you trust that you can handle challenges and succeed in different situations, whether it’s trying something new, speaking in front of a class, or making decisions.

It’s feeling sure about who you are and what you can do.

On the other hand, when we lack self-confidence, it’s like having a little voice in our head that keeps telling us we can’t do things or that we’re not good enough.

This feeling can make us scared to try new things or talk to new people because we’re worried we might fail or they might not like us.

What causes a lack of self-confidence?

Have you ever noticed how fearless babies are? They try walking, fall down, and get back up again. They babble endlessly, not worried about saying the “right” thing. But as we grow up, something changes. Why do we start doubting ourselves?

-Fear of repeating the same mistakes or facing rejection can really shake our confidence.

-Then, there’s the feedback we get from those around us. Remember being constantly picked on or corrected by adults or peers while growing up? That can make us feel like we’re never good enough, planting seeds of doubt about our abilities.

– With everyone’s highlight reels on social media. It’s tough not to feel inadequate when it seems like everyone else has it all; looks, success, the perfect life.

-Not receiving recognition or acknowledgment for one’s efforts and achievements can make it difficult to build self-esteem and confidence. When our hard work goes unnoticed, it’s disheartening. It can be at work, school, or any area of life. That pat on the back sometimes is all we need to feel seen and valued.

-Engaging in negative self-talk and harboring a critical inner voice can erode self-confidence over time. It is a dangerous confidence killer. It can be relentless, focusing on every flaw and mistake, overshadowing our strengths and achievements.

-And, of course, health challenges can make us feel vulnerable, affecting how we see ourselves and our abilities. Whether it’s dealing with a physical condition or mental health struggles, it can add another layer of self-doubt.

But it’s really interesting how confidence works.

It’s not like you’re just born with it or without it, and that’s that. It’s more like it ebbs and flows depending on our actions.

It’s multifaceted and can vary greatly depending on the situation or context. It’s fascinating how you can feel strong and assured in one area yet feel uncertain about other activities.

Take me, for example. I’m pretty solid when writing stuff down or working through problems. But the moment I need to film myself for an Instagram reel? Forget about it. I get all caught up in my head, wondering if my caption’s witty enough or if I look okay. I haven’t even gone there with posting reels; it’s just not in my comfort zone.

Put me on a stage, ask me to deliver a presentation, or have me teach a class, and I’m all in.

But if there’s someone in the crowd who intimidates me, all that confidence starts to wobble. No matter how much I prep, if I spot them, I’m instantly reminded of every critique I’ve ever gotten. It’s wild how our brains hold onto that stuff, right?

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So, how to deal with lack of confidence?

When our brains automatically jump to the negative stuff when we mess up a bit, positive affirmations act like our personal cheerleaders fighting against that negativity.

But it’s not just about saying nice things to yourself. It’s about really tackling those negative thoughts that like to hang out in the back of our minds.

Here, I am, helping you deal with that inner critic with positive affirmations.

Positive affirmations or positive self-talk is one way to handle a lack of self-confidence. There are other ways to tackle self-confidence issues, and it’s better to seek help from an expert if the problem is extreme.

For confidence issues you face daily, rewiring your brain with positive affirmations to make you believe in yourself is the simplest way possible.

It can be a part of your daily routine, where you speak some positive words to uplift yourself, or at anytime and anyplace when you feel that paralysing effect of self-doubt.

Practicing affirmations is a vital way to enhance your self-love. It’s about making it a daily habit.

Also read: Empower yourself with these self-love goals.

50 AFFIRMATIONS FOR SELF-CONFIDENCE

Affirmations have been a regular part of my life. Ever since, I learnt about it when I was introduced about the law of attraction, it has helped me in many ways.

One way to use affirmations is to swap the limiting words like can’t, but, should, impossible with more empowering words like can, will, possible, learning.

Instead of diminishing your achievements or statements with “but,” use “and” to add positivity. For example, change “I did well on the test, but I could’ve done better” to “I did well on the test, and I can improve even more next time.”

1. I am worthy of respect and acceptance.
2. My self-esteem is independent of others’ opinions.
3. I am confident in my abilities to solve problems.
4. I trust myself to make the right decisions.
5. I have valuable talents and skills.
6. My contributions to the world are valuable.
7. I am capable of achieving my goals.
8. My potential to succeed is limitless.
9. Challenges bring opportunities for growth.
10. I embrace my unique individuality.
11. I am deserving of happiness and love.
12. I am resilient, strong, and brave.
13. I believe in my ability to overcome adversity.
14. I am in control of my life and choices.
15. I deserve to be successful and fulfilled.
16. I am proud of my achievements.
17. I accept myself unconditionally.
18. I am a positive force in the world.
19. I inspire others with my ability to be true to myself.
20. Every day, I grow more confident in myself.
21. I am worthy of my dreams and aspirations.
22. I am enough just as I am.
23. I radiate confidence and positivity.
24. My voice matters, and I speak my truth.
25. I am a beacon of love and acceptance.
26. I am open to new adventures and experiences.
27. I am independent and self-sufficient.
28. I appreciate my strengths and embrace my weaknesses.
29. I am a work in progress, and that’s okay.
30. I am fearless in the pursuit of what sets my soul on fire.
31. I am empowered to create change in my life.
32. I am worthy of investing in myself.
33. I let go of doubts and embrace confidence.
34. I am deserving of all the good things in my life.
35. I am a magnet for positive opportunities.
36. I am confident in my ability to learn and grow.
37. I love the person I am becoming.
38. I choose to be proud of myself and the things I choose to do.
39. I stand tall and proud of what I have accomplished.
40. I am motivated, persistent, and successful.
41. I am deserving of my own love and affection.
42. I am surrounded by love and everything is fine.
43. My journey towards self-confidence is ongoing and rewarding.
44. I am a powerful creator. I create the life I want.
45. I am bold, beautiful, and brilliant.
46. My inner world creates my outer world.
47. I possess the qualities needed to be highly successful.
48. I am a winner, feel great, and feel good about myself.
49. I am overflowing with energy, joy, and confidence.
50. I am a positive thinker and only think about the best possible outcome.

“Confidence is not ‘they will like me.’ Confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t. “

– Christina Grimmie

This quote powerfully reminds us of what true confidence really looks like. This kind of confidence is liberating. It frees us from the constant stress of people-pleasing.

Remember, confidence is not static; it’s dynamic and can be developed over time with intentional effort, self-compassion, and patience.

Celebrating successes, learning from challenging experiences, and remembering that it’s okay to be a work in progress can all contribute to a more balanced and resilient sense of self-confidence.